<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[my old notebooks]]></title><description><![CDATA[My Old Notebooks]]></description><link>https://www.myoldnotebooks.com/blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Sat, 11 Jul 2026 02:30:20 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.myoldnotebooks.com/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[you can't delegate trust]]></title><description><![CDATA[the first time i tried to "delegate," i basically just handed someone my to-do list and walked away. then i hovered. then i rewrote half of what they did. then i quietly concluded that delegating doesn't work and i should've just done it myself.  took me embarrassingly long to see the obvious: i hadn't delegated anything. i'd handed off the tasks but kept all the trust. and tasks without trust isn't delegation — it's surveillance with extra steps.  here's the thing nobody tells you....]]></description><link>https://www.myoldnotebooks.com/post/you-can-t-delegate-trust</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a4032c4f69fbd60c76d083b</guid><category><![CDATA[leadership]]></category><pubDate>Thu, 18 Jun 2026 10:00:00 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Jarad Backlund</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[the difference between rest and avoidance]]></title><description><![CDATA[i kept calling it recharging.  a saturday on the couch. phone in hand, three episodes deep, telling myself i'd earned it. and i had — the week was a lot. but by sunday night i didn't feel restored. i felt heavier. like i'd spent two days running from something instead of resting from it.  that's when it clicked: rest and avoidance can look identical from the outside. same couch, same blanket, same closed laptop. the difference is on the inside, and it's worth learning to feel.  here's the...]]></description><link>https://www.myoldnotebooks.com/post/the-difference-between-rest-and-avoidance</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a40317cd3770ea960ee6f19</guid><category><![CDATA[mental health]]></category><pubDate>Thu, 11 Jun 2026 20:24:55 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Jarad Backlund</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[the boring portfolio that lets me sleep]]></title><description><![CDATA[i used to think investing was supposed to be exciting.  i had the apps. the little red and green numbers. i'd check before coffee, check at lunch, check in bed. a green day felt like winning. a red day felt personal. i told myself i was "engaged with my finances." really i was just gambling with extra paperwork.  the wake-up call wasn't a big loss. it was a tuesday. i caught myself refreshing a chart for the fourth time before 9am, heart going a little fast, over a swing that — when i did the...]]></description><link>https://www.myoldnotebooks.com/post/the-boring-portfolio-that-lets-me-sleep</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a403280d3770ea960ee722d</guid><category><![CDATA[personal finance]]></category><pubDate>Thu, 04 Jun 2026 10:00:00 GMT</pubDate><dc:creator>Jarad Backlund</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>